As far as that viewpoint of scripture being promoted in an accredited university, I’m not aware of one either.
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Is It Time to Start Arranged Marriages Again?
- Thread starter Jason Cook
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Ultra conservative independent baptist schools. Lots of extra biblical rules and regulations. Heck, up until a couple years ago, Pensacola didn’t even allow girls to wear pants.
Doesn’t sound like the colleges that were being described. May not be everyone’s cup of tea, but don’t sound like the party schools others were describing.
But...it’s veering off topic just a bit from arranged marriages. @Jason Cook
What’s your viewpoint of sending a daughter to such a school to help with “arrangements”?
For what type of man would your daughter be perfect wife?
Besides, you are more likely to find people who are more "stuck" in conventional ways of thinking there. And they don't look fondly on Christian poly supporters.
So you need somebody who prefers faith based living, while being open minded and more mentally flexible. Combination which often doesn't come together.
Because some men can't attract a woman on their own merits.
While this is true, I believe there’s a good number of men on this forum who are interested in “guided” marriages (you can call it arranged) for our daughters. It means assisting our daughters (who trust our judgment) in finding suitable men with proper work ethic, spiritual acumen and future prospects. Ultimately, they make the final decision, but we assist in the headhunting.
I think guiding a young woman is always a good thing.
"Arranged" marriages often indicate something that isn't exactly consensual on the part of the young woman and if you go that way then keep in mind that humorless people with badges and guns might come to see you.
Agreed.
A godly man must arrange marriage for his daughter if he is to steward his home and children in obedience. If we look at arrange by definition as to put in order or organize and make plans for. It is important for a daughter to understand she belongs to her father and know he has the ability to give her to whom he will and to be trusting him to give her to whom God has for her to belong to. It is also important for a father to know and act in obedience to God anf that it is a weighty matter.
Ecclesiasticus 7:25
“Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.”
Ecclesiasticus 26:23
“A wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man: but a godly woman is given to him that feareth the Lord.”
I do think Yah arranges marriages even in the cases of giving wicked women to wicked men.
In conclusion men are instructed to give their daughters to good husbands, men of understanding in obedience to God, this should be carefully done in wisdom. I do think I wise man will know his daughter, have a relationship with her as she is his husbandry and is capable of vetting and giving a godly daughter to a godly man.
Ecclesiasticus 26:10
“If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty.”
Ecclesiasticus 7:25
“Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.”
Ecclesiasticus 26:23
“A wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man: but a godly woman is given to him that feareth the Lord.”
I do think Yah arranges marriages even in the cases of giving wicked women to wicked men.
In conclusion men are instructed to give their daughters to good husbands, men of understanding in obedience to God, this should be carefully done in wisdom. I do think I wise man will know his daughter, have a relationship with her as she is his husbandry and is capable of vetting and giving a godly daughter to a godly man.
Ecclesiasticus 26:10
“If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty.”
I agree. I don't see it as a forced upon marriage - the daughter has the free will to say no. But the father should be guiding her to suitable men; just like fathers today guide their daughters to suitable colleges.
For many women - college should not be the priority. College is known for its sexual liberation, and a place full of temptation to sin against the Most High. Is it not better that the father helps find her a husband first, and then the husband and wife can discuss college? At least in that way - she has a covering (her husband) who can fulfill her sexual needs instead of sinning against the Most High.
Yes, It would seem sending a daughter uncovered to college would be very unwise and it would seem much better to leave her more advanced education to her husbands digression. I would however say a woman under a godly fathers headship has freewill to marry whom she will in the same way we have freewill to steal something.