I’m not sure if it’s cultural, language, or generational, but there seems to be a disconnect with you brother.
In real life, people don’t generally go around hurling tough guy language at women or men without pushback. You’re getting some now, appropriately.
If your purpose is to sharpen us, then don’t use a hammer. Scalpels and razors don’t get that way by way of hammering.
If you think we are not even close to being a sharpened sword and need your hammer and anvil, you are wrong. We who are husbands and fathers have already been shaped and formed by our lived experiences. We always welcome refinement and sharpening. We just know that a hammer won’t do the trick, especially from someone who’s never shaped a sword.
**I know my analogies and applications may be jumbled, but I think most readers will understand.
You think this is something like debate club with some direct speak, however after some time here it's time to start noticing patterns.
One of customs of this forum is me against whole forum. Nothing strange when I'm dealing with several people at once.
Such conversation usually finish same way. Others run out of arguments against me. There is reason I'm nickmaned brain.
Now it's time for special tricks.
First one is question "Are you married?" This question has zero connection with understanding me, my arguments etc...It's only usage is as way to throw out everything I have told.
To make analogy, imagine speaking with African black why Africa is behing West and Asia. You suggest, to be polite, opportunity to upgrade African culture.
Easiest way for African not to admit African culture suck, West/Asian culture is superior, protect his feeling, avoid to learn anything, keep thinking his is superior is to proclaim you racist. Case closed.
In similar way, others use my unmarried status to even avoid considering my arguments as interesting/right/challenging. It's just easier think: MemeFan is idiot because as unmarried, he doesn't know what he is speaking.
You see, people don't say "I tried what you told and it didn't work" or something similar. Or something like in my experience when using your idea(s) what has happened is X. Or they would have some other causal process which they think is correct. That would be mark of using experience. Maybe there were few cases, but most aren't like this.
Second way is claiming being offended. You see, I use rather direct language, so there is some risk of being abrasive. However, it's also true that not apologizing is being rude. Without seeing faces and with only text, it's very hard to read what other person is really thinking.
So I can't be if certain post was offensive/way it's written is offensive/pretending to be offended.
You see, just like proggresives like to call others racist to establish their moral superiority, it's highly likely some here like to pretend to be offended/ feel offended in other to make me look rude in order to establish their moral superiority.
So after losing logical arguments, it's time to pull big guns of emotional manipulation. And I know this because such persons never use block button on me to never see my posts. Nope, they must see them and be triggered.
Since my personal values are to avoid emotional manipulators and to spend time on people who want me, logically I should at least massively cut my time allocation for this forum. Something which have for other personal reason planned to do. So I have perfect opportunity.
Making people unwelcome is, sadly, one of this forum specialities. I do feel like some would like nothing more than my dissapearence.
And this doesn't include highly probable pressure on moderators to ban me/ punish me.
I'm still undefeated.
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