@Gibitto, I wasn’t addressing the thief entering the home. It’s an unfortunate episode, but no apologies are owed to his family.
I was addressing your statements about Jesus, love and who benefits from that love.
In this case I beg your pardon for the harshness of my response.
But clarifying what I have said before. Love/Agape is not about sentimentalism, its about a lawful action concerning the well being of a neighbour. Doing to him as you would like to be done to yourself. People misinterpret love as being a vague feeling. With this you see Christians supporting homossexual marriage inside the church. Something clearly against the Law of God, but that people think is based on "love". We could find other examples, even more subtle than this one, but I think the dissociation between this so called love and what the Bible says, specially the Torah, concerning Gods moral code, creates a wrong notion of what Love is.
For example, visiting a person imprisoned is an act of love, but if they are really guilty, you should preach on repentance for them. But their actions have put them there and the punishment is just. Not punishing the guilty would be unjust and unlawful. But nowadays you see lots of people dismantling the law with a vague feeling of love and a subverted feeling of pity for those who have commited crimes. This is what I refer to when I say that people think that Jesus was a hippie.
Idk if in Brazil things have gone worse, I believe it did, but you have a bunch of people in here relaxing more and more the laws for criminals as if they were unjust and cowardly on the person who have killed, stolen, robbed, and etc. And they do so based on this distorted sense of empathy.
In the case of polygyny, a man "cheating" on his wife will be a heinous crime for a regular church. A wife's adultery is caused by something that the man did or ought to have done. See the imbalance? One is not even adultery, even if you consider it something else. The other is adultery. But one will have a harsh treatment, the obviously and undebatedly sinful one will be showered with affection and comprehesion on the sinner. While blaming the victim.
If a woman breaks the house, beats the man, uses the law as a weapon against the man, steals everything he has with help of the state, she is legitimized on doing so because of what he have done. Even if it means that in doing so, she committed a long list of sins. But if the man wants a divorce and custody of the children, he is wrong and he is being too harsh on the poor adultress.
The sinner deserves forgiveness? Thank God, literally, it does, otherwise I would have been in trouble myself. But the victim is to be recognized as the... Victim? Agape goes towards correcting and forgiving the sinner. But not in a way that puts them on the spotlight as a victim.
If needed be, I can try to explain it even further on in another way.