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Created To Be His Help Meet - Debi Pearl

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Joleneakamama

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Just thought I would share a book review.
My sis gave me a book Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl.
I share her appreciation for it and we agree that while we have read a lot of books on relationships this is the first one that has not left us as the readers looking for more from our husbands but instead has left us wanting more from ourselves.
If you are looking for fulfillment in life and marriage I highly recommend you consider the perspective of the author as well as her advice. (I am sure husbands would be blessed as well)
I consider this to be the best recipe book for a Godly marriage and home I have seen. ;)
 
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this book Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl sounds great.
 
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I totally agree ! "Created to be his helpmeet" is a must read !
Fairlight
 
ASyers41 said:
I wouldn’t read anything by the Pearl’s they advocate the beating of children and disguise it as spanking
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This is not true. Much of their child rearing advice is very good; as my extremely well behaved children would attest to. I was heavily influenced by that book and many people here have met my children and can affirm how well behaved they are:

I don’t like everything Michael Pearl has to say in “To Train Up A Child”, I particularly don’t think that there is any need to set up trials for them to fail, life will provide ample opportunities for that, but other than that most of what he says is good.

A lot of the accusations that get leveled at them are pretty spurious. But be that as it may, Debi’s teachings to women is next level excellent. Even if Michael gets something’s wrong on parenting, that shouldn’t reflect on his wife’s book.
 
ASyers41 said:
I wouldn’t read anything by the Pearl’s they advocate the beating of children and disguise it as spanking
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The Pearl's first book helped clarify in my mind the difference between training and discipline. I found it very helpful. As one who has trained horses, goats, cows, dogs,...and raised several children, let me just say that what each needs can vary widely. Some of our children only needed a stern word, but that would have been completely inadequate for others and left them with bad habits of disobedience and giving in to anger.

As the Bible says, correction is not the fun part, but we know that the fruit of livng right is sweet. Why would we deprive our children of that? The obligation to train and teach children is what separates parents from babysitters. We do it so they are prepared for life and understand how to function within moral boundaries.
 
I am not saying this but having attended a conference where they literally advocated for the leaving of marks on children and he also told a woman to divorce her husband if he pursued polgyny and let’s see blanket training which is incredibly wrong and if anyone doesn’t know what blanket training is you set a crawling baby on a blanket so maybe a 8 to 9 month old on a blanket and place their favorite toy outside their reach and you spank them every time they leave said blanket. Mind you I personally know they’re one of their son in laws and they have went the opposite way of her parents in rearing their kids and still have respectful kids. I’m not saying her book on being a wife is bad I’m just saying personally I can’t respect anyone that advocates some of the things they do and when we buy their books we are furthering the wrong message right along with the bad messages. This is just my personal opinion and you all are entitled to yours.
 
Bartato said:
The Pearls are badly wrong about polygamy.

I know a number of families who have more or less followed their child rearing methods, and the children seem healthier and happier than most.
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The Pearls are wrong on a lot of things but they’re right on a lot of things too. I consider them allies even if they would condemn me as a heretic.
 
ASyers41 said:
I am not saying this but having attended a conference where they literally advocated for the leaving of marks on children and he also told a woman to divorce her husband if he pursued polgyny and let’s see blanket training which is incredibly wrong and if anyone doesn’t know what blanket training is you set a crawling baby on a blanket so maybe a 8 to 9 month old on a blanket and place their favorite toy outside their reach and you spank them every time they leave said blanket. Mind you I personally know they’re one of their son in laws and they have went the opposite way of her parents in rearing their kids and still have respectful kids. I’m not saying her book on being a wife is bad I’m just saying personally I can’t respect anyone that advocates some of the things they do and when we buy their books we are furthering the wrong message right along with the bad messages. This is just my personal opinion and you all are entitled to yours.
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Blanket training is an effective and loving thing to teach a child. You don’t need the favorite toy. The child will leave the blanket and you will have opportunities to correct them.

You can start training a child as young as 6 months old to respond to the command “No touch.” Blanket training is just another step on that progression. You don’t start a child with no restrictions and gradually try to add restrictions as they get more able to endanger themselves; you start them will all the restrictions and then lift them as the child proves capable of fending for itself.
 
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