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Is what is good for one sex good for the other?

Off-Grid Artist said:
Here is a theoretical scenario I would like to put forth to you.

During debate about plural marriage, a man states that it is not a sin for men to have multiple spouses but that God does not like it. (Seeing that this is a common argument).

Often during such a debate a man will cite a "rule of equivalency" or something. I can't recall the name of this artificial construct, perhaps you can remind me. In essence, what is good for the man is good for the woman. If there is an instruction in the Bible written for one sex then it should apply to both sexes equally.

This argument is often brought up in conjunction with pointing out that anti-sodomy instructions govern the behaviors of men.

So, test out that theory on the initial premise given. The idea that it is not a sin for men to have multiple spouses but that God does not like it. Flip the premise, does the inverse still apply?

"It is not a sin for women to have multiple husbands but God does not like it."

Roll that around in the theoretical conversation. Does the logic hold? Does it sound right? Or would the debate opponent be averse to this statement.

Please point out any logical fallacies I may be employing.
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Easy
Lots of stuff is not in the Bible

At the time polygyny is a perfectly normal practice that vastly predated the writings we possess

Now we know there are vastly more mothers than fathers. This means that the modern blather about all men getting reproductive access and the opportunity to have a wife and children can be casually hand waved away as just the have not attempting to justify getting to have out of some sort social obligation.

Next we have simple biology
Men are broadcast fertilizers.
Women are conservator fertilizers.
They can not become pregnant by more than one partner at a time.

Conclusion, women are intended for one reproductive partner and men are capable of multiple partners.

Secondary conclusion is that thing notion proposed which boils down to whst is good good for the goose is good for the gander is what gave us the sexual revolution and by extension all of the concomitant aspects of the current acceleration of the cultural collapse.
 
paterfamilias said:
Secondary conclusion is that thing notion proposed which boils down to whst is good good for the goose is good for the gander is what gave us the sexual revolution and by extension all of the concomitant aspects of the current acceleration of the cultural collapse.
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As was predicted would happen in the Book "The History and Philosophy of Marriage".
 
I read Eros Made Sacred by James Wesley Stivers and was all excited about polygyny.
I read his second book Restoring the Foundations: Essays in Relational Theology and concluded I and most people I know don't even qualify for one wife. Life is a bloody roller coaster.
 
Maddog said:
OK I'll bite... What are the qualifications for a man to have more than one woman?
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I will not state any objective qualifications. Am more interested in the psychology and frame of mind required at least from what the author portrayed in his book. The modern world, church included does not train one to think that way about family life. Perhaps it nothing new to people on this forum but for me it was a radical change to thinking about family life.
 
RealmUncertain said:
Perhaps it nothing new to people on this forum but for me it was a radical change to thinking about family life.
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It was new to most of us at some point. The only exceptions to discovering this truth are those raised with it. Our children cannot remember a time when this was new. My husband now has children with his second. These will grow up thinking this is very normal, because indeed it IS normal. It is only the extreme indoctrination of pope affirming society that makes people think, oh wait, they no longer THINK about this, they instead experience an ingrained EMOTIONAL response....and that is why they act like it is OK for a man to remarry AFTER DIVORCE, (or just have a bunch of baby mommas) but think there is something wrong with him having two at the same time with full knowledge and consent.
I found this fun quote on the back of a recipe card yesterday. Found this maybe 27 years ago.

"The perceived political incorrectness of an unfamiliar idea lies in direct inverse proportion to the quality of education received by the perceiver."

~ Phillips law of cognitive denial
 
Maddog said:
OK I'll bite... What are the qualifications for a man to have more than one woman?
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I don't think there a Biblical guidelines, but there are certainly common sense guidelines. I would think you should not be an inmate, and you should not be addicted to alcohol and should not be engaging in the use of mind altering drugs. You should not be dependent upon the government (not something that would have been even under consideration in Biblical times). You should not be engaging in forbidden sexual relations. Those would be some common sense qualifications to have one wife, and I'm sure there may be others. To have a second wife, you ought to have shown that you love the wife God has given you and have been faithful to her. Whatever that qualification is, the first wife can attest to on your behalf, when you approach a second wife, so if you have a prospective woman who wants to screen out undesirable candidates, this is the Biblical Families mindset behind why polygyny is superior to monogamy, this prospective wife gets the information she needs to make a wise decision.
 
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